I'm guessing you would like to know what the secret is to awaken a man's love. To know how to get him to open his heart and really close to you.
Having a man close to you is a wonderful feeling...
The warmth of his embrace...
The smell of his skin...
The safety and comfort when you're near him...
And one of the most frustrating things a woman can feel is the suspicion that you might have accidentally pushed him away...
That you may have even scared a good man off for good.
Well, the truth is this: (WARNING - I'm not going to sugar-coat this)
The reason he doesn't want you or desire you is simply because you never made him feel like you really "GET" him.
You Gotta Show Him You GET him!
Let me explain...
Most women think it's enough to make herself look appealing by fixing her hair, makeup, and clothes. The usual "peacocking" stuff that captures his eye.
The thought goes that, if you make yourself LOOK good enough, he'll desire you and fall in love with you...
But this is backwards. And it feels *desperate* to men.
YES, you absolutely do need to be appealing to the eye (and that does NOT mean you need to look like a supermodel or have backbreaking boobs.) There is no question that this will initiate interest.
HOWEVER...
What he REALLY needs to feel is that you UNDERSTAND him as a MAN...
And you'd be VERY surprised how easy it is to send a guy the wrong signal and make him think you don't get him AT ALL.
For example: A lot of women pretend to understand a man in order to to pry open his heart. But it backfires on her when she doesn't do it the right way...
Like when she pretends to be interested in his hobbies or sports or television shows, but it's just her faking "good behavior." You know, that "getting to know you" pretending that both men and women sometimes do.
Most human conversations (these days, anyway) tend to have the feel of: "Mmm hmmm. Mmm hmmm. Just waiting for my turn to speak."
To be fair, we all get a little nervous on dates.
And we want to yak it up and make a good impression. But sometimes we gotta drop the whole "Facebook culture" thing and not need to broadcast ourselves or our lives.
SO when a woman pretends (even if she's really sure she's putting up a good act of interest), an alarm goes off in his head when he figures it out (and believe me, he DOES) - and then slams the door to his love on you.
He can pull away on the first date - or the umpteenth... There's no statute of limitations here
You have to show him that you not only understand MEN - but the unique things about HIM as a man.
Do you know what the sign of a man's interest is that you're probably missing? (Yup, it's the presentation, too...)
Do you know how to make him feel like a man, and not just a possible meal ticket? (That's a real concern for a lot of guys.)
So, we men know when a woman "GETS" us - and is on our team - and when it's just a trick to get us to dig her.
But if you show him the "Secret Signal" he's looking for - he instantly melts for you...
If you show him this Signal, you can have just about any man spellbound - IRRESISTIBLY desiring you...
(It's almost like cheating...)
Oh, and if you think that the "Secret Signal" men are looking for is SEX - that's NOT it!
TIP: the *worst* mistake you can make is to sleep with him too quickly just because you think he might "move on" if you don't...
For example - I just got off the phone with Rebecca - a client, who's now a close friend of mine...
After losing her husband to another woman, at the age of 39, well - she's falling back in love, and talking about a new baby...
Now, if you had seen Rebecca just 3 months ago at the mall, where they had an argument so loud and scary that the police had to escort them out (no joke)...
You would NEVER have thought this was possible...
But she pulled it off... I gotta hand it to her.
You see, what Rebecca discovered was the ONE thing that men desire most of all from women.
And if you think it's that same three letter word that starts with S and ends with X ...
NOPE.
Not that at all.
Again, so many women assume that this is what men want, and ALL they want.
It's such a well-known and accepted fact about men that it must be true... right?
Nope. I'll give you a little hint about what he needs -
It's called APPRECIATION.
Men THRIVE on appreciation. In fact, he wants to feel this more than he wants to feel love from you.
Why?
Because it's one of the signals that tells him he's doing things RIGHT.
It's the ONE way he knows he's making you happy, when you appreciate him. Appreciation is the male form of LOVE!
It's also one of the reasons he falls in love in the first place. But, inevitably, the appreciation starts to wane...
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