How To Get Over a Cheating Ex Boyfriend

If you've had a bad breakup, you might be trying to figure out how to get over a cheating ex boyfriend.

You hate the betrayal, but you're still in love with him. It's not always easy!

It’s devastating to be cheated on and if you’re finding it difficult to move forward with your life, the first thing you need to do is to be aware of all the roadblocks that are preventing you from getting back on your feet.

The hurt and anger can hold you back from discovering the man you are really destined to be with.

Here are a few roadblocks you should avoid: 

Roadblock #1: Blaming yourself

You’ve been hurt, you’re vulnerable, and your feelings are at an all time low. You feel betrayed, and rightly so.

Because of this, your judgment is clouded. Your negativity is - dare I say - way higher than your positivity.

Even when your ex was the one who left, cheated, and created this situation, you probably blame yourself.

You’re wondering what you did or didn’t do to make this happen.

This may take a lot of willpower, but if you want to get on the road to recovery, you have to gather your strength and STOP…

Stop the negativity. Stop the over analysis.

And start accepting that you’re not to blame and THIS is not your fault. He made his choice, wrong as it was.

Roadblock #2: Don’t waste time getting even

Yes, you’re hurt and you might feel extremely vengeful, especially to that guy who caused you that much pain.

Before you do anything, think about this…

Will it be worth it? The drama, arguments, and intense need to hurt someone.

What’s the point after all that?

He did what he did. Don’t give him reasons to think that he has made the right choice by hurting you (instead of feeling remorse and guilt).

Getting even will not make things any better, so why waste your energy on it. Just focus on moving forward.

Roadblock #3: Thinking he can change

This is what you have to remind yourself all the time - if he did it once, he could do it again. Maybe he just cheated - but he could also be a cheater, which is far worse.

Rationalizing what he did wrong to make it right and accepting him back to your life with the hopes that he has changed is like a ticking time bomb ready to explode.

Do you really want to be in a situation wherein you’re paranoid all the time?

You'll constantly be thinking, "Where is he?"

"What’s he’s doing?"

"And with who?"

This stuff can change you for the worst. Remember this, it’s easy to forgive, but it’s hard to forget.

And you’ll always remember that that the trust has been broken.

So, how do you get past the pain and get on with your life?

Here are a few steps to recovery that can help you pull yourself together again:

Recovery Step 1: Get rid of his stuff

You won’t be able to recover if his things are all over your place reminding you of the good and the bad. Each item will only trigger emotions from you – feelings you shouldn’t be dwelling on if you want to get past this event.

So, pack up all his items… donate it, throw it in the dumpster or ask his friends to give it back to him.

Recovery Step 2: Delete him from your phone

- Carlos Cavallo

UPDATED 9/27/2021